It's funny how many people say that they want honesty. The more I live life, the more I come to realize that people would rather have you put a little sugar on it. In other words, people would rather have you lie. I don't understand that. Why say you want an honest person when in reality you want someone to compromise their own beliefs values to temporarily salvage your feelings. What do I mean you might ask? Well, let me tell you what I am talking about. If you read my last blog entry than you must know about my last date. Well I thought I would do us both a favor and be honest about my feelings toward him. Well, to make a long story short I let him know about my feelings for him................. They are non-existent. He called me today and I decided to answer. I wanted to be honest and tell him how I really felt instead of doing the classic phone avoidance thing. I know that is the easy way out. I felt that even this guy deserves to have some sort of brief explanation. In his dating profile he even states how he wants the truth. See look read it for yourself below:
"The personality that makes me unique is I only deal with the truth, many people cannot handle the truth, and for those that cannot, they need to grow up! The keys to a lasting relationship are being able to tell, handle, and deal with the truth!
See after reading that in his profile I just knew I he would respect me telling "The Truth". But anyways, after he calls he starts by saying "HI"! And I just sit there thinking, "Why doesn't he announce who he is"? I guess he thinks our 3 hours together was so wonderful that I already have his voice inscribed in my memory for life........NOT! Then he asks, "What are you doing"? I dryly reply by saying "Nothing" Then he asks me "what do you want to do"? I again say "Nothing". And he says, "ok, would you like some company"? I say "no". Then I decide to be honest with the guy. I believe I at least owe him that. So I let him know that I did not see this going anywhere romantically. Then he says "what? I cannot hear you" So I repeat myself and re-enforce what I said before by letting him know that I don't have any romantic feelings for him. So what do you know? He decides to just hang up in my face. How rude. I didn’t even have a chance to say we can be friends. Then I realized that is not what he wanted anyways. It's funny. He is the one who said he wanted honesty, than hangs up in my face when I give it to him. I guess he would have rather been out on several dates and prolonged it. Meanwhile I am getting in deeper and deeper and trying to figure out how to end this thing that I never wanted from the beginning. So I guess sometimes you cannot win. But you know I felt a heck of a lot better telling the truth. I guess that in itself is a win for me. I know I was true to what I really want and believe. I just figured, “Why do that to him and myself”? I felt good knowing that I did not have to pretend to have feelings for him. I always have felt that people should build a firm foundation as friends before becoming lovers anyways. I guess society has gotten so many people twisted in their thinking these days. Maybe the true definition of truth has changed over the years. HMMMMMM… Maybe I should check to make sure. What is the meaning of truth these days? Well Webster's Dictionary defines truth as:
1. Conformity to fact or actuality.
2. A statement proven to be or accepted as true.
3. Sincerity; integrity.
4. Fidelity to an original or standard.
5. Reality; actuality.
6. Often Truth that which is considered to be the supreme reality and to have the ultimate meaning and value of existence.
Nope. The definition hasn’t changed. The truth is the truth!! Truth. Well I know there are different ways to get a point across when telling the truth far as tactfulness and discretion. Timing can play a factor as well. But the sad reality is no matter how it's served up, fried, baked, steamed or grilled; some people cannot handle the truth. So what is the point that I am trying to get across? Just take it from the Man Above
"Jesus said "...you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free." John 8:32
Today, Tomorrow and Forever AMEN!!!
"The personality that makes me unique is I only deal with the truth, many people cannot handle the truth, and for those that cannot, they need to grow up! The keys to a lasting relationship are being able to tell, handle, and deal with the truth!
See after reading that in his profile I just knew I he would respect me telling "The Truth". But anyways, after he calls he starts by saying "HI"! And I just sit there thinking, "Why doesn't he announce who he is"? I guess he thinks our 3 hours together was so wonderful that I already have his voice inscribed in my memory for life........NOT! Then he asks, "What are you doing"? I dryly reply by saying "Nothing" Then he asks me "what do you want to do"? I again say "Nothing". And he says, "ok, would you like some company"? I say "no". Then I decide to be honest with the guy. I believe I at least owe him that. So I let him know that I did not see this going anywhere romantically. Then he says "what? I cannot hear you" So I repeat myself and re-enforce what I said before by letting him know that I don't have any romantic feelings for him. So what do you know? He decides to just hang up in my face. How rude. I didn’t even have a chance to say we can be friends. Then I realized that is not what he wanted anyways. It's funny. He is the one who said he wanted honesty, than hangs up in my face when I give it to him. I guess he would have rather been out on several dates and prolonged it. Meanwhile I am getting in deeper and deeper and trying to figure out how to end this thing that I never wanted from the beginning. So I guess sometimes you cannot win. But you know I felt a heck of a lot better telling the truth. I guess that in itself is a win for me. I know I was true to what I really want and believe. I just figured, “Why do that to him and myself”? I felt good knowing that I did not have to pretend to have feelings for him. I always have felt that people should build a firm foundation as friends before becoming lovers anyways. I guess society has gotten so many people twisted in their thinking these days. Maybe the true definition of truth has changed over the years. HMMMMMM… Maybe I should check to make sure. What is the meaning of truth these days? Well Webster's Dictionary defines truth as:
1. Conformity to fact or actuality.
2. A statement proven to be or accepted as true.
3. Sincerity; integrity.
4. Fidelity to an original or standard.
5. Reality; actuality.
6. Often Truth that which is considered to be the supreme reality and to have the ultimate meaning and value of existence.
Nope. The definition hasn’t changed. The truth is the truth!! Truth. Well I know there are different ways to get a point across when telling the truth far as tactfulness and discretion. Timing can play a factor as well. But the sad reality is no matter how it's served up, fried, baked, steamed or grilled; some people cannot handle the truth. So what is the point that I am trying to get across? Just take it from the Man Above
"Jesus said "...you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free." John 8:32
Today, Tomorrow and Forever AMEN!!!
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